Tune in to Gear Up! Adventures in Parenthood with Clinical Social Workers Heather Bouwman & Kristina Boersma as they explore the highs and lows of parenthood with lots of insight and a little humor, too.
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Clinical social workers Heather and Kristina discuss the difference between discipline and punishment, emphasizing a growth-focused approach. They highlight the negative impact of punitive models on children’s mental health and attachment.
Sharing personal stories, they illustrate how modeling positive behavior and providing do-overs can foster resilience and healthy development. They stress the importance of co-parenting and understanding the root causes of children’s behaviors.
The conversation underscores the need for a supportive, non-punitive environment where children feel safe to learn and make mistakes, promoting long-term growth and connection.
Clinical social workers Kristina and Heather discuss the critical role gratitude plays in parenting, specifically in shifting mindsets from victimhood to resilience. They highlight practical strategies like expressing gratitude at dinner, keeping gratitude jars, and using visual reminders.
Gratitude is linked to improved mental health, reduced depression and anxiety, and enhanced happiness. They stress the difference between genuine gratitude and toxic positivity, advocating for authentic expression and critical thinking. They share personal stories that illustrate how gratitude can transform negative situations into opportunities for growth. They also discuss modeling gratitude and involving children in giving activities, such as leaving pennies for others to use for a fun activity for kids at a local grocery store chain.
In this episode Kristina and Heather, clinical social workers, discuss the importance of setting realistic expectations for children, balancing effort with perfectionism, and establishing clear, consistent boundaries. The conversation highlights the benefits of natural consequences over imposed ones and the necessity of following through with consequences.
They emphasize the significance of body language, empathy, and offering choices, sharing personal anecdotes about handling a child’s perfectionism and the impact of forgetting items at school.
They discuss how important it is to set developmentally appropriate expectations and how important, yet challenging, it can be for parents to be consistent role models.
Clinical social workers and moms, Heather and Kristina, discuss the importance of setting clear boundaries with children to promote their success and family well-being.
They emphasize that boundaries should be consistent and not overly rigid, as this helps children understand acceptable behaviors and values. They also highlight the need for parents to communicate expectations clearly and consistently, as our kids are not mind-readers.
The conversation also covers handling sibling conflicts, teaching children to respect boundaries, and the significance of emotional safety. They stress that boundaries should evolve as children grow, focusing on teaching values and nurturing their development.
Join Kristina and Heather in this lively episode as they don their detective hats and continue their conversation about the intriguing world of shifting behaviors and how to better understand these changes in our kids.
They explore clever strategies for decoding children’s behaviors, especially when it comes to food and screen time. With a focus on connection, they share how family meals can become nurturing moments that balance parental guidance with kids’ ability to listen to their bodies. Get ready for some real talk as they recount their own parenting adventures understanding their own childrens’ food preferences. Plus, they shine a light on the effects of screen time, suggesting a fun 15-minute rule to prevent dopamine overload.
Heather and Kristina also remind us all of the crucial role nature and time outside play in boosting family health and harmony. Tune in for a blend of laughter, insights, and practical tips that will help you navigate the ups and downs of chasing those “whys” when it comes to behavior shifts and “being the detective” in your own home.
Join Heather and Kristina as they embark on a two part series to uncover the secrets behind those puzzling behavior shifts we all encounter.
Armed with magnifying glasses and a playful spirit, they illuminate the essential clues—diet, sleep, screen time, physical activity, and attachment—that unlock the treasure chest of a child’s emotions. It’s like a scavenger hunt for the heart! With their usual compassionate, “no nonsense” approach, Heather and Kristina tackle how major life changes, like moving homes or the arrival of a new sibling, can create ripples in a child’s mood, leading us to a fascinating interplay between environment and behavior.
With a dash of humor, they remind us not to jump to conclusions, advocating for a thoughtful, detective-like approach that seeks to decode the “whys” behind these shifts.
In this episode, Heather and Kristina continue their exploration of David Keirsey’s temperament theory, which outlines four fundamental temperaments: Guardians, Artisans, Idealists, and Rationals.
Drawing from their own parenting journeys, they delve into the Idealists and Rationals, sharing valuable insights that illuminate how these temperaments shape our children’s unique perspectives.
Heather and Kristina discuss how understanding these traits can enhance our parenting by allowing us to tailor our approaches to fit each child’s individual needs. They explore the delightful dynamics that come with each temperament, revealing how this awareness helps us approach parenting with greater empathy and joy.
Join them as they celebrate the diverse ways our children experience the world, empowering us all to support and nurture their growth in the most loving ways!
In this first episode in a two-part series, Kristina and Heather, discuss David Keirsey’s temperament theory as a tool in parenting, focusing on two of the four temperaments: Guardians and Artisans. Guardians (approximately 45% of the population) are factual, reliable, and duty-bound, valuing law and order. They are often responsible parents and leaders but can be misperceived as pessimistic or self-righteous. Artisans (approximately 30% of the population) are optimistic, daring, and adaptable, valuing freedom and impact. They are creative and spontaneous but may struggle with rules and planning.
Understanding temperament allows parents to recognize and appreciate the innate differences in how their children perceive the world and interact with it.
Rather than expecting all children to respond the same way, parents can adjust their communication, discipline, and expectations to align with each child’s natural tendencies.
Continuing their conversation on “The Parenting Journey,” Heather and Kristina explore embracing the unexpected and letting go of preconceived expectations both of ourselves as parents and of our children. They discuss the importance of discovering and celebrating each child’s unique identity, rather than trying to mold them into a predetermined vision. They share personal experiences of navigating parenting challenges, such as dealing with a child’s learning differences and embracing their child’s specific interests, even when they are outside the parent’s comfort zone. The conversation emphasizes the value of building a supportive community of friends and family who can provide encouragement, perspective, and a listening ear during difficult times. They highlight the role of imaginative play in a child’s development and the need for parents to be flexible and adapt to their child’s needs. This episode underscores the importance of finding personal coping strategies, like using music, and using humor to manage stress and maintain a positive mindset throughout the parenting journey.
In this episode, Kristina and Heather discuss the importance of proactive parenting and building strong attachments with children. They emphasize the significance of rituals, such as family meals and bedtime routines, in fostering connection and resilience. They share personal experiences, like prioritizing family meals despite busy schedules and the impact of one-on-one time. They highlight the importance of modeling positive behavior and consistent values, such as generosity and respect, to help children develop these characteristics. The conversation underscores the need for intentional parenting to create a secure and loving family environment.
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